My wife and I have been doing the Love Dare that was seen in the movie Fireproof. If you are not familiar with the book or the movie, I would suggest giving it a look. The movie was a low budget film and in some parts it showed, but the message was powerful. The Love Dare has been a great experience because it requires an intentional effort on each person to put into the marriage. What we’ve found out is that having a great marriage does not come easy. It takes a lot of focused effort over the long haul to become what you want it to. It does not happen by luck, accident or mere coincidence. I’ve seen this in other areas of my life like getting back into shape. Its hard. It takes discipline. Its so much easier to not be in shape than to be in shape and I think its the same for marriages. But if all you do is pound burgers and coke, eventually your heart will stop beating. The same is true in our marriages; if all we do is do what is easy and serve ourselves, our marriage will stop beating and die too.
The heart of the movie, the book, and our experience is that a marriage built around love and service is only accomplished with Christ in the center. Only when we model our marriages after his example will we reach the relationship we desire. It requires serving when we’re not appreciated. It means loving when we’re not loved in return. I am so blessed to have a wife that cares enough about our marriage and loves Jesus enough to love me when I’m not lovable. To serve me even when I’m a jerk. What I see in her is a living example of the Gospel. Here is a scene that says it better than me…
The point of something being fireproof is not that it will never be burned in a fire, but that it will be able to make it through a fire when it comes. Paul says it this way, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her…”
Husbands, go do something to show your wives you love her. And I don’t care what kind of mood she was in when you last saw her!